I read an article today that was tweeted by CPYU (Center for Parent/Youth Understanding). This post opens my eyes to the fact that our students are living in a new erra of morality, and it costs a lot. Narrowing this topic down this article mentioned how schools are trying to crack down on dirty dancing (grinding) at school dances. A high school student speaks our from her heart about the issue. In the article she says;
“Parents, you have to understand this is what our generation has come to. This is us. There is no stopping it. . . . We don’t know any other way to dance. It’s also not our fault our music brings this on. . . . Students aren’t just going to go along with the rules of no grinding. They’re ticked, therefore, many are having parties homecoming night consisting of all the grinding they want and alcohol simply because they can’t grind at homecoming. . . . When our society’s values and morals are what they are, how else are you expecting us to dance? Schools can’t take this out on us for not knowing how else to dance and they can’t blame us for what our generation has become.” (underlining is mine)
The author of this article follows up with three great points;
“…First, we realize that those of us who are older need to think carefully about the examples we’ve provided to our children and teens. Second, behavior that we know is a fallen and sinful expression of God’s good gift of sexuality is no longer seen by kids as immoral and wrong. Rather, it’s normal, nuetral, and maybe even right. And finally, fewer and fewer members of the emerging generations are willing to take responsibility for their behavior.”
Read the entire article here.
This prods me to ask a few questions. Are we loving our student by being disengaged from their world? Are we loving them by letting them define morality for themselves? Are we loving our student by tightening the reigns so much that we strangle their personhood to the point that when they are on their own at 18…their first thought is “freedom from mom and dad” (which produces rebellion)?
For the sake of the gospel, and the lives of our teens, we need to know the difference between training behavior vs. training the heart (an on the opposite end, apathy). God has given us everything in this world – out of love – for our pleasure. When God’s design is taken out of context – so we can have control of that pleasure – that pleasure has an expiration date.
Morality is changing, just as much is God is changing. It isn’t. We need to fight for the hearts of our kids. This is our responsibility as parents. Have we forgotten how to fight for our students? Has their teenage years jaded us to the point of apathy or worse, slave driving? Love is what changed the world which brought Jesus to the rescue of our souls. How we love our kids will make the difference in their understanding of how the world goes round. It has to center on Jesus!